It’s natural to have nervous feelings leading up to your wedding day, but don’t let nerves get the best of you! The pressure to be perfect can lead to anxiety, so here are a few tips on how to let it go and enjoy your day…
Let’s not have any surprises on the wedding day. Take an hour and put on your gown, your shoes, your foundation garments, your jewelry, your veil….make sure everything works the way it should. If you can, try out your bustle as well. Get used to how everything buttons, zips, and fastens before your big day! When the wedding day arrives, there will be no unknowns when it comes to dressing.
Your wedding day is not the time to make any skincare product changes. It takes time for your skin to adjust to new products, so the month before your wedding make sure to stick to a regimen that works for your skin. You may see stress breakouts during this time (naturally), but a little extra blemish cream is all you need – not an entirely new skincare system.
It’s tempting to whoop it up with your family and BFFs the night before the wedding, but in the morning you will awake to puffy eyes and tired skin. Resist the urge and excuse yourself at a reasonable hour so you can get 8 hours of sleep. And while you’re at it…make sure to practice this in the week leading up to the wedding as well!
Your mind may be on overdrive, so a melatonin before bed might be a good idea. Still can’t get your brain to wind down? Try a warm bath and a cup of decaffeinated tea before turning in.
You’ve heard this a million times, but don’t forget to eat. And the morning of your wedding, you’ll need PROTEIN! Hard boiled eggs, peanut butter, yogurt with berries, nuts, and granola…all of these are excellent choices and will give you the energy you’ll need for this marathon day.
Have your Maid of Honor pack an insulated cooler with healthy snacks and water for you throughout the day. Things like bottled water, bananas, and almonds are great choices.
This will be a long day and you’ll need to keep your energy up! Water and healthy foods will help you make it through.
To encourage a happy, calm, atmosphere, program a playlist into your Spotify and play it while you get ready. A good playlist will start a little light and sweet, then gradually move into more celebratory music later in the playlist.
To start you off, here are a few easy songs appropriate for the beginning of the day:
Wouldn’t It Be Nice (Beach Boys)
Going To The Chapel (Dixie Cups)
Love On Top (Beyonce)
Put Your Records On (Corrine Bailey Rae)
Lovely Day (Bill Withers)
I Only Want To Be With You (Dusty Springfield)
Have fun with this! A playlist is something you can make months in advance, so if you plan it out correctly, your playlist will be ready and waiting to bring all the feels to you on your wedding morning.
Be mindful about what the crazy brain of yours is saying to you. It is easy to spiral into what if’s and worry, but stop those thoughts in their tracks! Be purposeful in switching to happy thoughts of what an amazing, wonderful, fabulous, love-filled day this is going to be!
You will find that noticing the scary thoughts creeping and simply changing your mindset will chase the worries away.
Come to acceptance that things may not go as planned, and that’s OK. Keep your big picture in mind – you love your fiance and your will be joined together for life. That is what really matters – don’t forget!
Most people close to you will assume you’re nervous…or excited…or stressed. Don’t leave them guessing. It will make you feel better and it will help others help you if you let them know what you are feeling. Your loved ones want to help you in any way they can, so let them know what you need.
Maybe it’s just an ear so you can vent. Maybe they can run to pick up a last minute item for you. Keep it nice, keep it polite, and let your people know what you are going through.
And sometimes, just saying it out loud makes the worry go away. Just sayin’.
Sounds silly, right? But trust me, you will forget to breathe.
Deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth. Practice five of these in a row during the few days before the wedding. It only takes a minute and you will be amazed at how calming it is. By focusing on your breathing, you will halt whatever is going through your mind and come to more clarity about your next steps.
You can get ready and out the door in one hour, right? Not on your wedding day!
You will have parents and photographers and bridesmaids all around you. They will talk with you and laugh with you. They will crowd around the mirror with you. Your photographer will want to take photos with you getting dressed, putting on jewelry, putting on your veil, putting on your shoes…
It takes a long time on your wedding day, so plan accordingly. However long you think it will take, triple it. Trust us.
You’ve hired a Planner, you’ve decided on florals, you’ve created a wedding day timeline, you have a great DJ…
Now, let them do their job. Resist the urge to micro-manage and just go with it. Love every minute, whether it’s on your timeline or not. Let you Planner direct the day based on what the two of you have spent months working out. Trust. Trust. Trust.
Now, get out there and have a great wedding day!